Date: 7/19/2008 12:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
I'd laugh, too.. you may not care for him the same way now.. but you can still remember the hurt he caused you.. and I guess it's true that karma really does come around.  |
Date: 7/19/2008 1:00:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I don't care for him the same way, but I am willing to be friends with him. But you are right about how I can still remember the hurt, and although I've forgiven him, I still can't help but laugh lol.  |
Date: 7/19/2008 1:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 7830
When we've been really hurt by someone I think it's natural to react the way you are. It's hard to honestly say "im so sorry" when someone does something to the that they did to you. However, feeling the way you are means you're holding onto anger over it and that hurts you, so I believe compassion wouldn't be a bad thing to try and stir up, although easier said than done lol I deal with this same kind of thing and have to pep talk myself.  |
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Date: 7/19/2008 1:04:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I will admit that sometimes I have animosity towards him. But it is more directed at his need to insult women, and then we wonders why no woman wants to date him lol. But you are right Shai, I should be more compassionate. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 1:05:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
*he wonders why. |
Date: 7/19/2008 1:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 64566
If you enjoy the pleasure of hearing his complaints are you two are not arguing I see nothing wrong with it. If you are laughing to make him mad yes you in the wrong. If you are just laughing on the inside where he doesn't know it then I'd just listen.  |
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Date: 7/19/2008 1:43:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I'm not laughing at him or making fun of him to his face, but I am laughing on the inside. I am actually giving him tips on how to interest a girl. Part of the reason I'm laughing is because I find the situation kind of ironic. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 1:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 64566
CORRECTION : {complaints are you two} I meant to say '''' and '''' |
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Date: 7/19/2008 1:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 64566
Just read your message , that's good , I'd keep right on laughing then. |
Date: 7/19/2008 3:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
Im glad! I know somewhere inside he knows he deserves being cheated on. I'd laugh and laugh and then laugh some more ;) x  |
Date: 7/19/2008 6:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 63743
I think you have all rights to laugh and feel some kind of "joy" because he hurted you, however if you guys are trying to be friends I think you should talk to him and really let him know how you feel and what you think is making his relationships not last...I mean if you could save him some pain over this and maybe a heartache to some other girl...why not do it?  |
Date: 7/19/2008 6:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 37101
There's an old addage for this. "What goes around... comes around." -  |
Date: 7/19/2008 6:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 56359
I'd laugh harder. It doesn't seem like relationships mean a thing to a good many people.  |
Date: 7/19/2008 6:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
know what you mean... just don't tempt karma by laughing at her visits ;o)  |
Date: 7/19/2008 7:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 24003
Nah, its not mean to laugh. what goes around, comes around.  |
Date: 7/19/2008 7:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 13297
I don't know, was it a diabolical Cruella de Ville laugh or more like a harmless giggle? ;)  |
Date: 7/19/2008 8:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 40145
just tell him, well quit complaining and remind him of what he did to you. i dont know if its mean or not. but if he did cheat on you and i think its stupid of him complaining to you like that a nyways.  |
Date: 7/19/2008 9:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 61977
The irony of life is sometimes funny. I also believe in karma, but I also believe in compassion as well. It is not wrong to feel the way you feel. Embrace the emotion, however do so with compassion as you would want to be treated the same way, if the shoe was on the other foot. Perhaps, he will now learn his lesson and won't do it again? *shrugs* You deserve to laugh, afterall he made you cry. ;)  |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:16:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Karlita, the sad part is.. I have talked to him many times and yet he keeps on doing the same thing. In some ways I feel sorry for him, but I can't help but chuckle a little bit whenever he complains (and he does it a lot). I know, bad of me :( |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:17:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
A/O I do try to be his friend, but I will admit that sometimes I do feel bitter towards him. It's not something I show, and usually whenever I feel that way I don't talk to him for awhile. But you are completely right. |
Date: 7/19/2008 10:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 55967
I wouldn't laugh. Yes, remember what he did to you, and yes, see that it has come around, and he is hurting now like he hurt you, and yeah, since you are human, you can take solace in that little fact. That being said, being joyous at the spread of negativity is wrong in my point of view. I would nod at the justice, but that would be it. Laughing at him is too far, and yeah, too mean, I guess you could say. No one should laugh at someone else's misfortune, no matter what it is. That's keeping it alive to keep going around.  |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:19:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
I agree Shawn, our relationship didn't mean much to him, but now that he doesn't have anyone he thinks, and talks, about it all the time. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:20:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Majic, it is more of a harmless little giggle. I really don't wish him ill will, and I hope he finds someone.. But to be honest, with his attitude towards women that isn't going to happen. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:22:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
A/O I hope he learns the errors of his ways and finds someone wonderful like I have. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:23:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Shortmuffin, I agree, I wish he wouldn't complain to me, but I did tell him that even though we would never be anything more than friends, I would be there for him. I know that if I reminded him he wouldn't care anyways, because he didn't love me then, and doesn't now. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Mother Love, I hope he learns a lesson that cheating hurts, a lot. I do honestly feel bad for him, but I'm also laughing at the irony of the situation. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:27:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Gypsyhawk, you have a good point. I will try to remember that when he starts on his hour long "poor me" sessions. I really do feel bad for the guy, but I can't help but see the irony. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:28:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Thank you everyone for your replies, I'm not really as vindictive as this post suggests :-p. |
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Date: 7/19/2008 10:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
oh... he must be an offspring of uncle joe. Peni required... it's where the male brain lives ;o) |
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Date: 7/19/2008 11:26:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64497
Lol Mercury |
Date: 7/20/2008 7:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
sounds like he is creating his own problems i wouldnt date someone that said things like that  |
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Date: 7/20/2008 7:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
oh an i love karma shes my girl ) |
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Date: 7/25/2008 1:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 55967
I see you doing a good service for him in attempting to give him advice, and it is great that you are friends like that after going with him and then breaking up. A lot of young people can't be like that. It requires a certain level of maturity. However, with that comment of his, he displays a need for a lot more of an awakening that I think he must get from life (or possibly a counselor), but at any rate, one I think is beyond your ability to help. For him to be that old and to think like that is sad. |
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Date: 8/2/2008 3:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 63400
Try not to laugh or have too much joy when it involves others suffering or in pain but be aware respectfully we all get whats coming to us and we can change the future by altering the present at any time. |
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Date: 8/2/2008 3:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 63400
Its only mean of you if you feel glad he is hurting or in emotional pain. He may deserve it but it shouldnt be fun to watch. |
